Summer vacation is right around the corner. The kids will be out of school and ready to unleash the pent-up energy they’ve been storing all year. And here you are, a divorcing parent with too much on your plate… Are you ready?
Summer Vacations are Tough during Divorce
During your divorce, you have a lot to worry about. You’re budgeting your time between kids and work, scheduling meetings with your Charlotte divorce lawyer, and handling your personal obligations.
Sometimes it seems like there aren’t enough hours in the day. No matter what your child custody agreement looks like, you’ll probably have to make adjustments once school is out for the summer.
Try talking to your ex to see if he or she can lend a hand; in fact, your Charlotte divorce lawyer might suggest that you make your ex your first option when you need child care. That encourages parent-child relationships and gives you the help you need—it’s a win-win.
Teaming up with Other Parents
If you’re having a tough time working out the kinks in your summertime schedule, it can’t hurt to find out if you know anyone else in the same situation. Sometimes working out a childcare schedule is easy; if your neighbor is home early on Mondays and you go in late on Fridays, you might be able to work a simple kid-swap that makes everyone happy (and gets some of the pressure off the grown-ups).
Make Your Time with the Kids Count
When you’ve got time off and you’re free to hang out with your kids, make the most of it. Psychologists suggest that kids can be traumatized if they think that you could be spending time with them and you’re not. In 20 years, your kids won’t remember that you finished a project ahead of schedule by working on the weekend—but they will remember if you set your work aside and focused on them.
When Your Ex isn’t Helping
Exes aren’t always easy to deal with, especially when they don’t contribute like they should. If you can’t get your ex to pick up the kids at your agreed-upon times, if he or she is a frequent “no-show” or if you’re not getting any cooperation at all, let your Charlotte divorce lawyer know. He or she might be able to help rearrange your custody agreement or adjust the amount of child support you receive so you can afford to hire extra help.