After you have hired a Charlotte divorce attorney, you will probably be spending a lot of time in uptown Charlotte with your children. Because court sometimes runs behind schedule, you might find yourself with some extra time to spend uptown with your children. Alternatively, you may want to maximize your time uptown after meeting with your Charlotte divorce attorney at a specified time.

One of the main attractions in uptown Charlotte for parents with children is The Discovery Place museum. The Discovery Place is located at 301 North Tryon Street, a convenient walking distance from where you will often meet your Charlotte divorce attorney at the Mecklenburg County Courthouse. The Discovery Place is a museum filled with educational events, shows, an IMAX theatre, 3D films, live animals, and hands-on activities that culminate into a family-friendly atmosphere. The non-member fee for visitors is $12 for adults and $10 for children, whereas the member price is free for both adults and children.

Another fun activity to enjoy with your children after meeting your Charlotte divorce attorney is ImaginOn, a collaborative venture of the Charlotte Mecklenburg Library and Children’s Theatre of Charlotte. Located at 300 East Seventh Street, ImaginOn offers children’s theatre productions and children’s theatre classes. There is no charge to use library services at ImaginOn, or participate in drop-in programs. Pre-registration is required for Children’s Theatre classes and some library programs, and tickets are required to see a show. If you want to plan ahead when you have an upcoming meeting with your Charlotte divorce attorney uptown, you can surely spend your extra time at ImaginOn with your children.

For adventurous families, The NASCAR Hall of Fame would be an excellent way to spend some extra time in uptown Charlotte after meeting with your Charlotte divorce attorney at the Mecklenburg County Courthouse. Located at 400 East Martin Luther King Boulevard, an adult ticket is $18.95, and a child ticket (5-12 years old) is $11.95. The 40,000 square foot Hall of fame is filled with more than 50 interactive experiences like tire-changing stations, realistic race simulators, a broadcast booth, and a specified Kids Zone.

Some families might want a more traditional museum experience when waiting to meet with their Charlotte divorce attorney. The Mint Museum Uptown offers the Lewis Family Gallery, where children can play, explore, and learn about the museum collection using hands-on activities. From creating art, to building and puzzle activates, the Family Gallery is open during regular museum hours. Located at 500 South Tryon Street, the museum is from walking distance from meeting your Charlotte divorce attorney at the courthouse. While member tickets are free, adult tickets are $10, and tickets for children under 18 are $5. Alternatively, if you are willing to drive a few minutes from uptown after meeting with your Charlotte divorce attorney, the Mint Museum located at 2730 Randolph Road is an excellent alternative to any of the previous suggestions. Tickets are the same price as the uptown Charlotte location.

Undoubtedly, there are many fun and exciting things to do for parents with children before or after meeting their Charlotte divorce attorney at the Mecklenburg County Courthouse. Make sure to take advantage of all of the family-friendly activities Charlotte has to offer!

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What do you do with a fully executed Separation Agreement?

After negotiating a settlement with your spouse you now have a fully executed Separation Agreement that is signed and notarized.  You should talk with your Charlotte divorce lawyer to determine what to do with it next.  Your Charlotte divorce lawyer may tell you that all you need to do is keep a copy for your records.  However, he/she may also advise you to record the Agreement at the Mecklenburg County Register of Deeds.

Will your Charlotte divorce lawyer advise you to record your Separation Agreement with the Register of Deeds?

The advice of your Charlotte divorce lawyer will depend on what your future plans are.   For example, many people who have moved out of the former marital residence are looking to buy a new home separately from their spouse.  In this situation a Charlotte divorce lawyer will advise you to record your Separation Agreement as it places members of the public on notice of the agreement and its contents.

You want to be able to purchase a new home without including your spouse in any of the related transactions.  It is important for you to talk to your Charlotte divorce lawyer about how to do this.  The issues are how to obtain a mortgage independently of your spouse and how you can buy a home without your spouse having an ownership interest in it.

A Charlotte divorce lawyer knows you need to be able to show that your spouse has waived his/her ownership interest in the new home.  This knowledge has led your Charlotte divorce lawyer to include a “free trader” clause in the Separation Agreement which waives each party’s interest in any real property the other party buys.  This is the proof your mortgage lender needs.

When you show your mortgage lender a recorded Agreement he/she is put on notice that your spouse has waived his/her interest in any property that you buy. Without this, the lender will need both you and your spouse’s signature on the Deed of Trust as there will be nothing to show your spouse has waived his/her ownership interest in the new home.

If you do not plan on buying any real property then your Charlotte divorce lawyer will likely tell you that keeping a copy for yourself is all you need to do. This will allow you to refer back to the Agreement should you ever need to.

I am afraid that if I record my Separation Agreement my private life will now be public.

A Charlotte divorce lawyer will likely advise you to file a Memorandum of her Separation Agreement instead of the actual Separation Agreement so that you can keep specific details of the Agreement private.  

Whether or not to record the full Separation Agreement or a Memorandum of Agreement is a question for you to discuss with your Charlotte divorce attorney. 

Separation Agreement vs. Memorandum of Agreement

A Memorandum of a Separation Agreement outlines the contents of the Separation Agreement but does not contain any of the personal information that is usually in the actual Separation Agreement.

The Separation Agreement drafted by your Charlotte divorce lawyer likely includes personal information you may not want everyone to have access to.  It contains bank account numbers, account balances, address, children’s names etc.  A Charlotte divorce lawyer will advise you to keep these details private.

A Charlotte divorce lawyer can draft a Memorandum of Separation Agreement that summarizes the Separation Agreement without giving all of the private details. The Memorandum of Agreement can include a “free trader” clause that will be sufficient to place a lender on notice that your spouse has waived his/her ownership interest in any property you buy.

Where do you record a Memorandum of Agreement or Separation Agreement?

Whether you record the Actual Separation Agreement or a Memorandum of Agreement, they are both easy to record.

A  Charlotte divorce lawyer will either record it for you or will advise you to go to the County Courts Office Building located in downtown Charlotte to record it yourself.

Your Charlotte divorce lawyer will tell you to record an original copy that has been signed and notarized.

How much does it cost to record a Memorandum of Separation Agreement or a Separation Agreement?

• It costs $26.00 for the first 15 pages and $4.00 per additional page.
• You need to bring cash for the filing fee.
• Ask for two file stamped copies.  Give one copy to your Charlotte divorce lawyer and keep one for yourself.

With this done, you have placed the public on notice of the existence of a Separation Agreement and you are able to enter into a real estate transaction as though you are single.

A Courthouse located in the heart of a bigger city always poses parking problems.  The Mecklenburg County Courthouse is located among several one way streets which can be difficult to navigate if you are unfamiliar with the area.  Ask your Charlotte divorce lawyer if you have any questions.

The Mecklenburg County Courthouse recommends the 4^th Street Parking Deck or metered parking on 3^rd Street.  The 4^th Street Parking Deck can be quite busy and the 3^rd Street meters only allow you to park for a maximum of 2 hours—and there are rarely any available spots.

Lots of Courthouse visitors, however, prefer the parking garage located at 232 South Davidson.  Though this is located about 2 blocks away from the Courthouse, there are usually plenty of spots if you don’t mind a quick walk.

• Assuming you take I-277, getting off at the 4^th Street Exit, you will actually drive past the Courthouse for about 2 blocks and turn left on South Davidson
• Less than ½ block on the right, you will see the entrance to the parking garage
• When you pull up to the gate, a ticket will pop out—you will need this when you leave the parking garage so don’t lose it!
• After you find your spot, walk out of the garage and across the street using the crosswalk
• You will turn left out of the parking garage and head back towards 4^th Street
• At 4^th Street, you will turn right, and proceed down 4^th Street for about 2 blocks until you reach the Mecklenburg County Courthouse, which will be located on the right hand side of the street
• Fees:  $1.00 per half hour—maximum cost of $12.00 per day

Your Charlotte divorce lawyer may have additional parking information and, as always, they are always happy to answer any questions.

Going to court for the first time can be an anxiety filled experience, even if you are accompanied by your Charlotte  divorce lawyer.  Here is a quick list of items that are absolutely prohibited in the Mecklenburg County Courthouse.

Walking into the Mecklenburg County Courthouse can be a bit overwhelming.  Your Charlotte divorce lawyer will likely tell you in which courtroom your proceeding will take place.

After walking through the security checkpoint, you will walk into the   lobby area of the Courthouse.  You may meet your Charlotte divorce lawyer here or he/she may ask to meet you outside your scheduled courtroom.  Most family court courtrooms are located on the 8^th floor of the Courthouse.  The elevators are located on the left hand side of the lobby, assuming you entered the Main Entrance at the corner of 4^th Street and S. McDowell Streets. You will need to take the elevators to the 8^th floor to meet your Charlotte divorce lawyer prior to your proceeding. Most courtrooms are a 3 digit number, which do not correspond with the floor where the courtroom is located.  For example, Courtroom 207 is located in Room 8100—on the 8^th Floor.  Here is a list of the most utilized family court courtrooms.

Courtroom 207:                                              Room 8100—8th Floor

Courtroom 204:                                              Room 8110—8th Floor

Courtroom 304:                                              Room 8150—8th Floor

Courtroom 210:                                              Room 8170—8th Floor

Courtroom 303:                                              Room 8310—8th Floor

Custody and Visitation Mediation:         Room 8510—8th Floor

Child Support:                                                  Room 8563—8th Floor

Family Court Services Center:                  Room 8000—8th Floor

Additionally, each courtroom has a listing near the entrance to the courtroom which provides a list of parties and proceedings which are scheduled in that particular courtroom on that particular day.  Though your Charlotte divorce lawyer has likely already double checked the location, it is always a good idea to scan the list to make sure you are at the correct location.

If you are not represented by a Charlotte divorce lawyer, check the documentation sent to you by the Clerk of Court, which should have the Courtroom number listed on the first page of the documentation, to include the time you are required to be present.  If you still have trouble locating the precise Courtroom, there are usually Courthouse employees, such as Deputies, located in the hallways that will usually help direct you.

The Mecklenburg County Courthouse provides free drop-in childcare services for family members who are conducting business at the Courthouse.  Larry King’s Clubhouse is located on the 2^nd floor of the Courthouse, in Room 2510.  Here are a few notes about their services:

-  Hours:  8 a.m. – 5 p.m.; closed for 1 hour at lunch and children must be picked up during this time
-  Maximum occupancy of children 6 weeks old – 2 ½ years old:  10
-  Maximum occupancy of children 2 ½ years old – 12 years old:  19
-  Reservations are recommended:  Call (704) 686-0285 for more information

A complete Courthouse room directory is available at:  http://www.nccourts.org/County/Mecklenburg/Documents/new_courthouse_directory.pdf

When you are involved in a legal proceeding, it is almost like learning a new language.  Motion this and Motion that…what does it all mean?

While your Charlotte divorce lawyer will explain any terminology that is unclear, sometimes the stress of the situation makes us forget the meaning when we get home and are rethinking the events of the day.

Here are a few definitions you can refer to if you need a refresher after asking your Charlotte divorce lawyer.

• MOTION TO DISMISS—this is a writing one party submits to the Court requesting the Court dismiss a case.  There are many reasons your Charlotte divorce lawyer or the opposing party may make such a request:

1. The party submitting the request doesn’t believe there are enough facts to support the case;
2.  The parties settled their issues/problems outside of the courtroom with the assistance of their Charlotte divorce  lawyer and do not need judicial interference;
3. The party who initiated the action has changed their mind and no longer wishes to pursue the claim

*There are other reasons a party might ask for a Motion to Dismiss; if you have questions, it is always best to ask your Charlotte divorce lawyer.

• MOTION TO COMPEL—this is a written document filed with the Court requesting that the Court force a party to do something, generally to hand over documents and materials which are used in the discovery process
• DISCOVERY—the part of the litigation where each party requests that the opposing party (and maybe an independent third party) hands over documents and other items they may be entitled to view as part of the litigation.  Items for discovery may include emails, records, bills, pictures and documents.

*Your Charlotte divorce lawyer will advise you as to what items must be supplied to the court as part of this process.

•  CONTEMPT ORDER—an order filed with the Court when a party does (or fails) to do something the Court said it must do.

*Example:  if one parent is required to permit the other parent visitation with a child but refuses to do so, the party denied visitation may ask the Court to force the other parent to permit it.

• MEDIATION—the process which seeks to have parties to a suit come to an agreement without judicial interference.  It is usually facilitated by an impartial third party who specifically is in the business of helping opposing parties settle their differences.  This also helps each party to feel like they have a say in the overall resolution of the problem.

*Your Charlotte divorce lawyer will provide you with more specific information if you proceed through this process.

•  DEPOSITION—oral statements made while under oath and given prior to trial, usually in your Charlotte divorce lawyer’s office.  These statements may later be used during a trial.

• INTERROGATORIES—written questions exchanged between parties involved in litigation.  They generally involve fairly generic information:  where you work, where you live, and other things like that.  This is usually the starting point when parties begin to exchange information.

There are plenty of other terms not listed here—always remember to ask your Charlotte divorce lawyer if you have any questions.

During your divorce, your electrical service may be the last thing on your mind – but depending on who’s moving where, you may need to make some changes. Your Charlotte divorce lawyer can help you decide whether you will need to find a new home or stay where you currently live; in either case, you may need to change your electrical service because of your divorce.

Whether you have already retained a Charlotte divorce lawyer or not, you can start planning for your future after divorce.

Things to Discuss with Your Charlotte Divorce Lawyer (and Why)

Be sure to tell your Charlotte divorce lawyer as many details about your circumstances as possible. The more your Charlotte divorce lawyer knows about your situation, the more he or she can help you. You may find it helpful to:

• discuss your potential new living arrangements with your Charlotte divorce lawyer

• tell your Charlotte divorce lawyer about circumstances that may prevent you from moving or staying in your current home

• let your Charlotte divorce lawyer know about anything that may prevent your spouse from moving or staying in your current home

What Your Charlotte Divorce Lawyer May Recommend if Service is in Your Name

If the electrical service in your home is billed to you (or to both you and your spouse), but you will be moving out, your Charlotte divorce lawyer may advise you to wait until you physically leave the residence before removing your name from the bill.

What Your Charlotte Divorce Lawyer May Recommend if You are Not Moving

Some couples choose to put utility bills in both parties’ names. If you are the one remaining in your home, and your spouse is moving out, your Charlotte divorce lawyer may recommend that you remove your spouse’s name from the electric company’s records.

How to Start New Electrical Service

If you are relocating, you don’t need your Charlotte divorce lawyer to tell you that you will need electricity in your new home. You do need to know, however, that the electric company may require you to pay a security deposit. You may also need to verify your identity.

Residents of Charlotte can contact Duke Energy to start, move or change service.

Consult with Your Charlotte Divorce Lawyer Prior to Taking Action

Be sure that you consult with your Charlotte divorce lawyer so you make these adjustments at the proper time. Your Charlotte divorce lawyer has helped several clients through divorces and will help prevent you from making choices that may harm your case.

When you change your name after a divorce, you need to notify the Social Security Administration. The Social Security Administration will issue a new Social Security card. Your Social Security number will remain the same.

Your Charlotte divorce lawyer will provide you with the necessary documentation to change your name with the Social Security Administration. You cannot legally change the name on your Social Security card without a certified copy of your divorce decree or a legally binding order signed by a judge, so your Charlotte divorce lawyer will advise you to wait until your divorce has been finalized before attempting to change it.

Why You Need to Notify the Social Security Administration

The Social Security Administration needs to know your new name to ensure that your Social Security earnings are tracked accurately. Additionally, most transactions that require your Social Security number are crosschecked with your name; if the name you use and the name on file with the Social Security Administration do not match, you may be prevented from completing your transaction. Your Charlotte divorce lawyer can provide you with several examples of cases where your Social Security number and name must match (like when you are dealing with the Internal Revenue Service).

Divorce and remarriage may also affect your Social Security benefits when you reach the appropriate age to draw them. Your Charlotte divorce lawyer may be able to tell you how your divorce will affect your standing with the Social Security Administration.

If you have further questions about changing your name, consult with your Charlotte divorce lawyer.

How to Change Your Name with the Social Security Administration

Visit your local Social Security office or download and print the Social Security Administration’s Application for a New Social Security Card; you may mail the form to your local Social Security office. Bring a certified copy of your divorce decree (your Charlotte divorce lawyer will provide you with your divorce decree as soon as your divorce is final). Ask your Charlotte divorce lawyer if any other documents will be necessary.

The Social Security office that serves Charlotte is located at 5800 Executive Center Drive (Suite 300) in Charlotte.

Discussing Your Options with Your Charlotte Divorce Lawyer

The decision whether to change your name or keep your married name is largely based upon personal preference. Your Charlotte divorce lawyer can help you make the right choice. Some people choose to revert to their maiden name to disassociate themselves from their former spouse; others wish to keep the same last name as their children. Your Charlotte divorce lawyer has likely represented people from both schools of thought and may be able to provide you with insight on what will work best for you.

“How much does a divorce cost?” asked the divorce client of her Charlotte divorce lawyer.

“It costs as much as a car” responded the Charlotte attorney. It sounded like a joke, but it was serious.

“What kind of car?” asked the divorcing client.

“What kind of divorce?” asked the lawyer.

That wasn’t the answer the client wanted. She just wanted a number. Unfortunately, attorney fees, especially in Charlotte, are never that simple.

Seriously, a divorce can cost as much as a car. It can be a very high-end expensive car (when the case is extensively litigated and the assets are large) or it can be an inexpensive used car (when the parties are able agree and the issues aren’t complicated.

Divorces cost as little as a few hundred dollars and as much as a few hundred thousand dollars.

The price really depends on the complexity of the assets and the level of conflict.

There are some factors that make a case more expensive and that expense can’t be avoided. For instance, if the parties own a business it’s going to require some attorney time and energy to deal with the division regardless of how amicable the parties are toward one another. There’s some legal work that’s required.

If, on the other hand, the assets are fairly straight forward and the parties are in agreement on the division then that part of the process can be handled inexpensively. If the parties are also in agreement about arrangements for their children then it’s smooth sailing and there won’t be big checks written to lawyers.

A divorce in Charlotte typically costs between $500 (at the extreme low end) and $500,000 (at the extreme high end). Do what  you can to minimize conflict and your money will stay with you rather than going to your Charlotte divorce lawyer.

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Divorce inevitably brings change; for some people, divorce means a new place to live, a new last name and much more. If your name and address change, you are responsible for notifying everyone who needs to know – namely, the Social Security Administration, your creditors and the Department of Motor Vehicles.

Your Charlotte divorce lawyer can help you by providing you with one or more copies of your divorce decree. When you are changing your information with various institutions, you will need to bring it; if you lose your divorce decree, your Charlotte divorce lawyer may be able to help you get a new one. It’s generally a good idea to keep several copies and ask your Charlotte divorce lawyer to keep one, as well.

Changing Your Address

Your Charlotte divorce lawyer may advise you to change your address with your creditors as soon as possible after your move. Generally, the sooner you change your address, the better; your Charlotte divorce lawyer is always looking out for your best interests, and when creditors can’t find you, problems arise.

You’ll need to call each of your creditors as soon as possible to let them know where you can be reached. Additionally, make sure your Charlotte divorce lawyer has your current address.

Changing Your Name

The divorce decree given to you by your Charlotte divorce lawyer is a legal document that serves as proof of your new name. When you are changing your name on bank accounts, credit lines, utility bills and with the Social Security Administration, you’ll need a copy of your divorce decree (your Charlotte divorce lawyer will provide you with one).

Social Security Name Changes

The Social Security Administration requires a certified copy of your divorce decree. If you are unsure whether your copy is certified, ask your Charlotte divorce lawyer. Generally, your Charlotte divorce lawyer will provide you with a certified copy immediately after it is issued.

You must either visit your local Social Security office or mail in an application for a new Social Security card with the divorce decree your Charlotte divorce lawyer has given you. Your Social Security number will not change; however, you will receive a new Social Security card in the mail that lists your new last name.

The Charlotte Social Security office is located at 5800 Executive Center Drive (Suite 300) in Charlotte.

Discussing Your Options with Your Charlotte Divorce Lawyer

While you may be eager to move or change your last name, you should discuss all your options with your Charlotte divorce lawyer. Remember, your Charlotte divorce lawyer is looking out for you – and you may be entitled to remain in your family home. Additionally, your Charlotte divorce lawyer can help you determine whether you should keep your married last name or revert to your maiden name; some working professionals’ names are their brands, and changing it could affect your business.

Your Charlotte divorce lawyer has represented several clients in situations like yours and can provide valuable insights about moving and changing your name.

I was sitting in my office in Charlotte on Friday afternoon some time back. It was time to pack up my stuff and go home when the phone rang.

It was our receptionist who told me that “there’s someone here to meet with you.” I had no idea who it might be since I didn’t have any appointments for the rest of the day.

I walked out front and met the guy who had stopped by. He walked back to the office with me and explained that he had a custody hearing coming up and needed an attorney. He told me he had been trying to negotiate the case himself and had avoided hiring counsel in an effort to save some money. That made sense to me.

Then he explained when the hearing was going to be held. “It’s on Monday” he said. “This Monday?” I asked.

Yep, it was going to happen in two days.

He wanted to know if we could help him with the hearing.

I explained why waiting until the last minute was a horrible idea. “We won’t have time to adequately prepare” I blurted out.

He understood that we’d have to wing it, but he needed help and he needed it fast.

We agreed to handle the case. We hoped to get a continuance, if possible, but we wouldn’t know if we could get a delay until we got to the Mecklenburg County Courthouse on Monday.

We spent the next 48 hours with our client getting ready. We prepared him to testify and we lined up several witnesses. We had some exhibits prepared and had things ready to go on Monday at 9:00 when we walked through the door of the courtroom in Uptown Charlotte. It was a crazy weekend.

We asked for a continuance and our motion was denied. Next thing you know, we were trying the case. It was crazy. Thankfully, I had a bunch of great help that got us through that crazy weekend and the trial on Monday. We survived.

Our client was satisfied with the outcome of the hearing, but I think he would have done better if we had more time. I also think he would have spent less money on attorney fees since he paid a premium for the “drop everything” service.

My advice, after living through the chaos of that weekend, is don’t wait. Get counsel early. Do what you need to do if you’re going to try to work it out without a lawyer, but when the lawsuit is filed and hearing dates draw near, get a lawyer. Don’t wait. Don’t cut corners. Your case is too important to do what our client did in his case. Be prepared.

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Divorce can cause financial strain or outright hardship; there are fees, court costs and payments to your Charlotte divorce lawyer. You may need to pay for childcare if your former spouse is not taking care of the children, or you may have to find a new home. While your Charlotte divorce lawyer can point you in the right directions to handle these issues, you may need to take on a temporary job during your divorce to maintain your current lifestyle.

Discuss your financial situation with your Charlotte divorce lawyer at your next meeting. Your Charlotte divorce lawyer may be able to advise you whether you should find temporary work for the duration of your divorce.

Where to Look for Temporary Jobs during Your Divorce

Staffing agencies often work with local employers to fill temporary positions. In many cases, a staffing agency can help you find temporary work that ranges in duration from one day to several months.

Your Charlotte divorce lawyer may be able to recommend a local staffing agency with a good reputation, or you can find a staffing agency near you on your own.

Things to Consider before Taking a Temporary Job

If your Charlotte divorce lawyer has advised you to find temporary work, there are several personal factors you’ll need to consider, including:

• childcare arrangements

• transportation issues

• how much “down time” will be left over for chores, errands and relaxation

• how much time you will be able to spend with your family

Preparing for an Interview

When you work through a staffing agency, your initial meeting there will include an interview. You may also be asked to take competency tests in your chosen field. Dress as if you are going to court with your Charlotte divorce lawyer – professionally and neatly. Bring copies of your resume and be aware that you are not required to disclose the fact you are going through a divorce. All you need to tell a staffing agency is when you are available to work.

Accepting a Job

Let your Charlotte divorce lawyer know immediately if you accept a temporary job during your divorce. Your Charlotte divorce lawyer can work with you and the courts to ensure you do not miss any important dates.

Permanent Jobs

You may wish to find a permanent job to supplement your income during and after your divorce. Regardless of the type of job you are looking for, make sure your Charlotte divorce lawyer is aware that you are working. If possible, provide your Charlotte divorce lawyer with a daytime contact number so that he or she can contact you if an emergency arises.

Keep Your Charlotte Divorce Lawyer in the Loop

When a temporary job ends (and your income stops), let your Charlotte divorce lawyer know. The money you bring in can affect future child support payments or other aspects of your case, and the more your Charlotte divorce lawyer knows about your financial situation, the better he or she can help you.

During or after your divorce, you may be required to find a new place to live. If you have small children who are not enrolled in school or daycare, it may be difficult to find someone to watch them while you move. Family members may be otherwise occupied, friends are at work – you can run out of options quickly.

What about mandatory court dates, meetings with your Charlotte divorce lawyer, job interviews and other times you’ll have to leave your little ones behind?

Your Charlotte divorce lawyer may suggest that you find a temporary childcare solution that you can use periodically throughout your divorce.

Ask Your Charlotte Divorce Lawyer for a Recommendation

Your Charlotte divorce lawyer may know a reputable childcare provider in your area. Since your Charlotte divorce lawyer has represented several clients in similar situations, he or she may have referred people to a certain provider in the past.

If your Charlotte divorce lawyer isn’t familiar with local childcare providers, you can begin to search for temporary daycare in Charlotte on your own so that you aren’t left scrambling to find help at the last minute.

Types of Childcare Centers

There are typically two types of daycare centers: permanent daycare and temporary daycare. Permanent daycare requires registration and can bill you by the day, week or month. Temporary daycare is commonly referred to as drop-in daycare.

Drop-in Daycare

Your Charlotte divorce lawyer may be able to recommend a local drop-in daycare center (either from personal or second-hand experience). Drop-in daycare centers often charge a one-time or annual registration fee, and charge hourly for the time your children are there. No appointments are necessary – you can simply show up with your children, drop them off and pick them up.

What to Look for in a Childcare Center

Like Charlotte divorce lawyers, childcare providers must be licensed by the state of North Carolina. When you visit the childcare center, look for obvious safety hazards. Ask the director:

• if all employees are subject to background checks

• if staff is trained in CPR and other lifesaving techniques

• what security measures are in place

• how you can authorize your spouse to pick up your children

• how you can prevent your spouse from picking up your children (consult your Charlotte divorce lawyer for guidance if you believe your spouse should not be permitted near your children)

Review North Carolina’s requirements for daycare centers if you suspect yours isn’t following state mandates for health and safety.

Things to Discuss with Your Charlotte Divorce Lawyer

When circumstances arise that require you to put your kids in temporary day care, let your Charlotte divorce lawyer know. Not because your Charlotte divorce lawyer needs to know about the day care, but because he or she needs to know if you’ve moved, gotten a job or have started to attend school.

If any issues arise, like the other parent failing to drop off or pick up children from a drop-in daycare center, call your Charlotte divorce lawyer immediately after you’ve taken care of the kids’ needs. Your Charlotte divorce lawyer needs to know the details in situations like these.

Finally, let your Charlotte divorce lawyer know if you find a fantastic drop-in daycare center; he or she may able to recommend the center to other clients who need the help.

Do you know where every penny of your money ends up? What about your soon-to-be ex-spouse’s money? How much of that money do you share, and how much belongs exclusively to you?

Unfortunately, many people do not even know their net worth, let alone where every cent of income lands. Your Charlotte divorce lawyer can attest to the fact that you need that information – but how do you get it? During a divorce, there are so many things to think about; you may not have time to comb through your finances and figure everything out.

You may want to consider finding an accountant to help with your Charlotte divorce.

Why Would Your Charlotte Divorce Lawyer Recommend an Accountant?

Your Charlotte divorce lawyer may recommend you hire an accountant for several reasons:

• An accountant can provide you with detailed reports on your income and assets that may help your Charlotte divorce lawyer in court.

• Your Charlotte divorce lawyer is looking out for your best interests – not only during your divorce, but after it as well.

• An accountant can help the court and your Charlotte divorce lawyer determine child support payment amounts.

If you are not sure whether you can benefit from hiring an accountant, ask your Charlotte divorce lawyer for guidance.

Referrals from Your Charlotte Divorce Lawyer

Since your Charlotte divorce lawyer likely has an accountant of his own, and probably knows several accounting professionals in the area, it’s a good idea to ask for a referral. Asking your Charlotte divorce lawyer for a referral to an accountant can save you hours of searching on your own, too. Your Charlotte divorce lawyer may have successfully referred past clients to local accountants who can help you keep your finances straight, both during and after divorce.

Discussing Your Finances with Your Charlotte Divorce Lawyer

If you have hired an accountant, you will have an accurate picture of your financial situation. You can then discuss your situation in-depth with your Charlotte divorce lawyer, who can use that information to help you during your divorce. Your Charlotte divorce lawyer will not press you for private financial details. However, many people find that providing their Charlotte divorce lawyer with a financial snapshot helps their cases.

Your Finances in Court

Your Charlotte divorce lawyer will only bring up facts about your financial situation that will help your case. Remember, your Charlotte divorce lawyer is always in your corner – so he or she will not disclose your personal business unless it will benefit you.

Hiring an accountant is not always necessary, but you should check with your Charlotte divorce lawyer to determine whether it is in your case. Even if you choose to hire your accountant temporarily, you may benefit from his services in the long run.

Your Charlotte divorce lawyer may suggest that you hire a financial adviser as soon as possible, whether you feel your assets are modest or substantial. But what does your Charlotte divorce lawyer know that you don’t?

Your Charlotte divorce lawyer has been to court with many clients – some with financial advisers and some without. In many cases, divorce requires couples to split all their assets, including retirement plans, homes and vehicles. You or your spouse may be ordered to pay child support, pay off credit cards or otherwise contribute financially.

Your Charlotte divorce lawyer knows the ins and outs of divorce, and recommending that you hire a financial adviser might be in your best interest.

How Can a Financial Adviser Help You with a Charlotte Divorce?

Your Charlotte divorce lawyer can attest to the fact that an accurate picture of your finances is a must-have during a divorce. A financial adviser can provide detailed information that you may not have, and can help you plan your financial future at the same time.

Where to Find a Financial Adviser

If you’ve chosen to hire a financial adviser, ask your Charlotte divorce lawyer for a referral. Since your Charlotte divorce lawyer has significant experience in divorces with divided assets, he or she may know a local professional who can help you lay out a plan for future financial stability.

Professional Financial Advisers: What Your Charlotte Divorce Lawyer May Recommend

It is always important to work with a credentialed professional. When your Charlotte divorce lawyer recommends that you work with a financial adviser, it’s a good idea to find one with either the designation CFA (Certified Financial Adviser) or CFP (Certified Financial Planner). Just like you’ll only work with a Charlotte divorce lawyer you’re comfortable with, you must also feel comfortable discussing your finances with your financial adviser.

How Financial Advisers Get Paid

There are three types of financial advisers, and your Charlotte divorce lawyer may be able to recommend one with a fee structure that will work for you:

• Fee-based financial advisers are paid a flat fee, regardless of the type of advice they offer.

• Commission-based financial advisers make money when you purchase stocks, insurance or securities after their recommendations.

• Fee- and commission-based financial advisers charge both a flat rate and are given a commission when you make a purchase toward your financial future.

If you are unsure which type will suit your financial needs, ask your Charlotte divorce lawyer for guidance.

Your Financial Adviser and Your Charlotte Divorce Lawyer

After discussing scenarios with your Charlotte divorce lawyer, you can provide your financial adviser with an accurate view of what your financial future may hold. While you are not required to discuss these things with your Charlotte divorce lawyer, many people find it helpful to do so. Both your financial adviser and your Charlotte divorce lawyer have your best interests in mind, and when you disclose important information to both, each can do his job more effectively.

While a financial adviser isn’t necessary in every case, you may find working with one beneficial. After reviewing your case, your Charlotte divorce lawyer can help you decide whether you should hire a financial adviser or not.

Dealing with a telephone company can be bothersome and time-consuming – but if you are getting a divorce, you may have to change your existing service or start new service. You will need to change your service plan if you and your spouse share an account; you may choose to stop service entirely and switch providers or you may need to set up an appointment to get service connected in your new home.

Your Charlotte divorce lawyer may be able to give you a timeline so you know when to make the necessary changes.

Home Telephone Service

After discussing your current and future living arrangements with your Charlotte divorce lawyer, you will be able to determine what changes you need to make, if any, to your home telephone service. Depending on your circumstances:

• your Charlotte divorce lawyer may advise you to wait until you have left the home to make changes to your telephone service

• your Charlotte divorce lawyer may encourage you to remove your name from the account immediately

Since every situation is unique, your Charlotte divorce lawyer can provide you with insights that will help you make the right decisions.

Cellular Telephone Service

If you and your spouse share a “family” plan with your cellular service provider, it’s probably safe to assume that one of you will have to be removed from the plan after your divorce. Your Charlotte divorce lawyer can help you decide whether you or your spouse should give up the service. Additionally, your Charlotte divorce lawyer can help you determine the best time during (or after) your divorce to make changes to your cellular plan.

Check with your cellular provider to see if you are locked into a contract. If you are, you may be able to provide documentation that will free you from your obligations; ask your Charlotte divorce lawyer for copies of any documentation that may help you with the phone company.

Things to Discuss with Your Charlotte Divorce Lawyer

Divorce is a time of change for everyone involved. There are a few additional things you may want to discuss with your Charlotte divorce lawyer before making any changes to your telephone service. You will need to determine who is responsible for paying telephone bills during your divorce, and if you have children on your cellular plans, who will assume responsibility for their bills as well.

Remember to keep your Charlotte divorce lawyer updated regarding new developments in your situation so he or she can provide you with advice that will benefit you and your family. If you change service providers and get a new telephone number, your Charlotte divorce lawyer should be one of the first to know.

During a divorce, you have several important choices to make – including where to live and whether to keep your married name or revert to your maiden name. Some people are eager to move, change their names and get on with their lives; others prefer to remain in their homes and continue to use their married names. Your Charlotte divorce lawyer can help you choose what’s best for you and your family.

If you move or change your name, the state of North Carolina requires that you change the information on your driver’s license to reflect those changes. Your Charlotte divorce lawyer can provide you with copies of the necessary documentation.

Discussing Your Options with Your Charlotte Divorce Lawyer

Your Charlotte divorce lawyer can help you determine what living arrangements will be best for you and your family. In some cases, both parties wish to live in the same house; however, one will have to leave during or after the divorce. Discuss your living arrangements with your Charlotte divorce lawyer to determine whether you or your spouse will find a new place to live.

Some women choose to change their last names after divorce. If you choose to go back to your maiden name after your divorce, your Charlotte divorce lawyer will include language in your divorce decree that allows you to do so. Conversely, some women choose to retain their married names – they may wish to have the same last name as their children, they may be used to using it after several years, or may have professional reasons for doing so. If you are unsure whether to change your last name, discuss your options with your Charlotte divorce lawyer.

Changing Your Address on Your North Carolina Driver’s License

You may change your address on your North Carolina driver’s license by visiting your local Department of Motor Vehicles or requesting a duplicate license online. You do not need proof of residency from your Charlotte divorce lawyer or any other source to change your address. However, you do need things your Charlotte divorce lawyer does not have in order to change your address online, including:

• a valid license issued after January 2000

• a Social Security number on file with the DMV

• your driver’s license number

• a valid email address

The DMV will mail you a new license within 20 days. Be sure to notify your Charlotte divorce lawyer when you have moved so that he or she has your correct address on file.

Changing Your Name on Your North Carolina Driver’s License

Make several copies of the divorce decree your Charlotte divorce lawyer has given you, regardless of whether your name has changed. If you misplace your divorce decree, your Charlotte divorce lawyer will likely have one on file – but it’s best to keep several copies in different locations for your own records.

You must visit your local DMV to change your name on your North Carolina driver’s license. Bring a copy of the divorce decree your Charlotte divorce lawyer has given you; without it, the DMV may refuse to change your name on your license.

The DMV will issue you a Temporary Driving Certificate that reflects your new last name. However, you may still use the license with your former name on it until you receive your updated license in the mail.

Updating Your Charlotte Divorce Lawyer

Although your Charlotte divorce lawyer already knows your new last name, make sure you let him know when you’ve moved. Your Charlotte divorce lawyer needs your current address on file in case he needs to reach you in the future.

Divorce can be a painful period in anyone’s life – male or female, adult or child. Even if you feel comfortable with the fact you are divorcing (or if you think your children are comfortable with it), and you’ve already retained a Charlotte divorce lawyer, you may have some unresolved emotional issues. In many cases, it’s beneficial for the whole family to talk to an outsider with an objective point of view: a therapist, counselor or psychologist.

Could finding a therapist to help with a Charlotte divorce make things easier on you and your family?

A Charlotte Divorce Lawyer’s Point of View

Your Charlotte divorce lawyer may advise you to find a qualified therapist – if not for you, perhaps for your children. There are several reasons your Charlotte divorce lawyer might recommend therapy, including:

• Talking to an unbiased outsider is a great way to gain perspective on what’s important.

• You may need emotional support to supplement the legal support your Charlotte divorce lawyer provides. Your children may need more emotional support than you can provide alone.

• A therapist can help you and your kids work through anger, sadness and feelings of betrayal.

• Both your therapist and your Charlotte divorce lawyer will be supportive of co-parenting with your ex-spouse, even after divorce.

Children may benefit greatly from talking to a therapist. According to Psychology Today, kids are often confused and angry with both parents, which can stomp out effective communication before it has a chance to begin. Your Charlotte divorce lawyer has likely seen many cases where all parties benefited from talking to a therapist.

Ask Your Charlotte Divorce Lawyer for a Referral

Since your Charlotte divorce lawyer has dealt with many more divorces than you ever will, he or she most likely knows a qualified local therapist who can help your family. Asking for a referral from your Charlotte divorce lawyer shows initiative and that you care about your (and your family’s) emotional well-being. Additionally, your Charlotte divorce lawyer is always looking out for your best interests.

Confidentiality: Your Charlotte Divorce Lawyer and Your Therapist

It’s important to remember that anything you tell your Charlotte divorce lawyer, like anything you tell your therapist, is completely confidential. Your Charlotte divorce lawyer won’t know what you discuss with your therapist (even if he has provided a referral) unless you tell him. Likewise, your therapist won’t know what happens in your Charlotte divorce lawyer’s office unless you tell her – both are bound by professional standards of conduct.

What Happens in Court if You See a Therapist?

You aren’t required to tell your Charlotte divorce lawyer you’re seeing a therapist if you’re not comfortable doing so. However, courts may look favorably on parents who choose to enlist the help of a professional.

In the end, working with a therapist is more likely to benefit you and your family than keeping your emotions about the divorce bottled up inside – and any Charlotte divorce lawyer can tell you that your emotional health is just as important as your physical health, especially through difficult times.