Borderline Personality Disorder (desc & diagnostic crite

[athos]

FWIW, I posted the original post on BPD. It was more for self-protection than clinical diagnosis and was definitely not meant to be used as a weapon against the STBX.

Borderlines can "turn on the sugar" when there is something to be gotten for it, only to explode later from anger. It's even worse during a divorce where they have to face true abandonment. It is not uncommon for a BPD STBX act as though they are cooperating in a divorce proceeding only to change colors in the actual courtroom and go completely on the offense in an attempt to get even for being hurt.

[Waterfall]

Wow... My husband was Diagnosed by 3 different therapists for this mental disorder. Each time he found a new therapist he would come home and tell me his therapist thought I was the one with the disorder. Nothing like blame shifting! The first time he was diagnosed he was receptive to getting help, but soon he was blaming the Doc for being controlling and trying to "change" him. He felt he was "labeled incorrectly". Then a year later he saw a new one, this time refusing to take anti-depressants, and after 3 weeks, he was told the same thing. That lasted 2 months. Then after leaving me for another woman he later ended (or she did) the relationship and he claimed with all his heart it would be different this time. He loved me and was going to get help. Well... now steps in therapist number 3. This time he did not disclose any previous counseling. Guess what? Same diagnosis. So, of course he stopped going entirely.
Although my heart loves and cares for him after such a long relationship, this time for me, I will not go through any more abuse, (he self harms too) manipulation,betrayal or threats and OH THE LIES!
Wow.. he is great at lying. One of the best.... I just hope one day, he really gets the medical emotional help he needs. I also hope, the person that was discussed in this topic also receives the help she needs. Mental illness really can be a family shredder if not treated. My heart breaks to see love between two people die, and eventually like an invisible plague, it spreads through the family. Family, friends, children, all find themselves choosing sides. Marriage shouldn't be like this.... ever