Fed up w/ Parenting Coordinator

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Fed up w/ Parenting Coordinator

Postby Exhausted » Fri Sep 29, 2006 7:11 am

We have a parenting coordinator, one assigned via a 'consent order appointing parent coordinator'. 2.5 years after the divorce and division property, there is still NO custody consent order. We have attended a mediation session through the wake county court house. I feel like both attorneys washed their hands by foisting this parenting coordinator on us.

I feel blown off and ignored by my attorney. How can I get out and stop using this parenting coordinator? She continues to churn costs and drag this out.
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Postby Exhausted » Fri Sep 29, 2006 7:21 am

Excuse me, that should read '18 months after the divorce and division of propety'
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Postby LeeRosen » Thu Oct 12, 2006 8:23 am

It's time to go back to the judge. If your lawyer won't pay attention to your case then it is time to interview some new lawyers. Gather your documents and start interviewing. Good luck.



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Postby FATHERDORIGHT » Fri Oct 13, 2006 1:40 am

Its not fair to the clients to pay all this money to attorneys just for the attorneys to figure out they don't want part of the case anymore then the client has to go spend more money to find another lawyer just to start all. This is a good forum but Rosen and all other attorneys needs to really understand we are normal everyday people and everybody doesn't have Doctors and Attorneys type of money.
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Postby JanetFritts » Fri Oct 13, 2006 6:52 am

Dear FATHERDORIGHT:

Greetings. I agree that legal work can be costly. You are making an assumption that attorneys earn, keep, and spend all the money they are paid, which is far from the truth in most cases. Attorneys have to pay staff, expenses, office rent, and all the other typical expenses of running an office.

However, I can say that most of the attorneys I know do actively care about their clients. I know I do. Thank you.

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Postby brokenk » Tue Oct 17, 2006 9:16 am

just yesterday, i saw our parenting coordinator for the first meeting. after an introduction, he realized that he knew my ex-wife from another case in which her now husband is involved in with his ex-wife. let me explain this again, he is the coordinator for my ex-wife's husband, and i didn't know it at the time when he was appointed. after this was found out, it was like i didn't exsist. anything and everything i tried to say, was played down, or totally ignored. i am the sole custodial parent and the one that set the parenting coordinator into action. she first denied the coordinator that my atty. recommended, so why should i care who it is, so i agreed to the one that she and her atty recommended. at the meeting, all she requested was more visitation during the week, ie. one mid-week night. he asked why i didn't want this, and i tried to answer, and he interurpted me not once but twice. telling me he had heard these things before, (routine, structure) and told me that he will change them just to try to make things work for the parents. i had a hard time with that, so i added that my son sleeps on the either the floor or the couch when he is over there. he looked me square in the eye and said that he has slept on the sofa many nights and it can be comfortable. then asked her if my son has a bed, her reply was, in her husband's youngest boy's room, a bunk bed. he said there you go. i knew that was a lie, so afterwards, i asked my son, who is 8, where the bed is that they offer him. he told me in his half-sister's bedroom who is 13. unbelievable. after all this, he awarded her with wednesday nights, and also an extra overnight for the weekend. i totally felt like this was a bias decision, and felt attacked throughout the meeting. and also he kept bringing up the other case for my ex's husband, throughout the entire meeting too. my question is two part. i am going to object to this, what happens when i do that, and how do i get rid of this coordinator?
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Postby brokenk » Tue Oct 17, 2006 12:37 pm

i need to add that the only reason i set up the parenting coordinator was due to her not taking our son to extra curricular activities. that is the only reason.
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Postby LeeRosen » Tue Oct 17, 2006 1:47 pm

Unfortunately you must go back to the judge dealing with your case to address your concerns.



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Postby brokenk » Thu Oct 19, 2006 3:14 am

i have gone to my atty to file the objection, and ask that this coordinator be taking off the case. in doing so, i politely emailed my ex letting her know that the original court order was still in affect and that this would be her weekend by it, if she would like to have our son. she forwarded a copy of the letter to the coordinator, who responed by calling me angry and bitter, and that if the court sustains his recommendations that it will be to her fortune. in your opinion, how is this going to be looked at by the judge. i have truely done nothing to show either anger or bitterness. at the end of our session i showed hurt by breaking down and crying, due to what took place. he also stated in his reply that he was directed specifically to deal in these matters and I could have gone much, much further, but chose not to do so initially until I could see how these recommendations progressed. i feel very threatened by this man. i feel very threatened by this statement
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Postby LeeRosen » Sat Oct 21, 2006 11:49 am

It is impossible for me to predict how the judge is going to react. All I can tell you is that the judge is your only recourse.

Sorry not to be of more help.



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