How Did This Happen?
You barely remember how the conversation went, just the awful sensation as your throat clenched up and your stomach felt hollow. You toss and turn trying to get some rest – hoping that if you can just get to sleep you’ll realize things are back to the way they were and you won’t have to deal with this.
Sure, things weren’t great, but they were normal. Everything seemed to be in it’s place. There was the morning routine – making breakfast and getting the kids to school. A long day at the office and not nearly enough time at home in the evening. An hour or two of TV with your spouse, some time on the internet, or maybe a quick game on your phone when you had a precious spare minute. It wasn’t the happily-ever-after life, but things weren’t bad. This is bad. All the little things that bothered you all of a sudden seem fairly trivial now that everything is about to change.
What’s worse is that it seems like your life is all of a sudden going to be entirely outside of your control. When the sink needs to be fixed, you call a plumber, because he knows more than you do about fixing sinks. You call, he fixes, you pay, you’re done. You’re in command and you call the shots.
This is no sink repair. You know that you need to talk to a lawyer for the same reason you need a plumber, but this isn’t a leaky faucet or clogged toilet, this is your life, your family, your house, your retirement, your future.
This is every holiday that your kids now have to spend split between parents. This is the 401(k) balance that you secretly checked on your phone every day at work, and nurtured from that hard-earned first deposit so many jobs ago. This is the conversation you have to have with your parents and friends where you tell them you’re getting divorced. These things can’t just be fixed like a leaky faucet, because nobody knows about your life like you do. But how do you move forward when the whole system is so complicated?
Lawyers are scary. Not fangs and a cape scary, they’re scary because the law is scary, and they seem to make everything too opaque with legal terms and negotiations. Plus, they all seem to know each other – How do you know they’re not just making deals as favors to their friends?
When your brother got divorced, it seemed like the lawyers just ended up talking between themselves and came back with a “take it or leave it” deal that wasn’t much of a deal at all. Is that going to happen here?
Divorce seems like some black box where your whole life goes in one side and a sterile piece of paper comes out the other. Your life is now a just a “case”, your retirement is a “plan”, and your kids are “dependents”. The lawyers know what goes on inside the box, but they don’t seem very keen on sharing that information with you. It’s like the whole system works by keeping you in the dark, even though you have the most at stake.
How are you going to afford this? Neither car is paid off and you’re expected to come up with who knows how much money to pay some lawyer. How long will this go on? Are you going to have to pay every time you want to have a phone call about your own life? When you had to get that parking ticket taken care of, the lawyer wanted you to fax him a copy of the ticket. FAX? Are these people stuck in 1995? Are you going to have easy access to the court files and correspondence from your spouse’s attorney, or are you going to have to show up at the office to dig through a mountain of papers. The burrito place down the street lets you make an online order from your phone, but these attorneys act like email is cutting edge. Why can’t things just go back to normal?
A Better Way
We’ve been different from the beginning more than two decades ago. It’s just part of our DNA. It’s why we like to say, “Divorce is different here.”
Oftentimes our differences have made our competitors unhappy, but that’s okay, because our clients have been very pleased.
Right from the start, back in 1990, we told the secrets that lawyers kept hidden. We demystified the divorce process, sharing the information that lawyers traditionally used to make things complicated. Back then we did it at free seminars. Some lawyers hated us, others thought we were crazy.
Our clients didn’t think we were crazy. They weren’t in the dark, trying to decipher mysterious language and complicated procedures. The secrets we shared gave them knowledge and confidence about the options and costs of the divorce process.
Then along came the internet. In 1995 we built our first website and started giving away the secrets to anyone who would listen. That drove the other lawyers berserk.
Oddly, that just motivated us more. And, our practice grew. The more information we gave away, the more clients called us and let us help. That’s how we became one of the largest family law practices in the Southeast.
We knew the secret to our success was to continue sharing these secrets with our clients. We got busy.
Busy being different
Being busy motivated us to keep giving away information and educating the public. Education became the cornerstone of our philosophy.
Being busy gave us the insight to understand the anxiety caused by hourly billing. That’s why, more than a decade ago, we implemented fee certainty with fixed fees. We got rid of mysterious and unanticipated attorney fees. You’ll always know exactly what every decision and move costs.
Being busy also allowed us to implement the most advanced technology in the profession. We use it to streamline our internal processes and make our client’s data accessible and understandable. You’ll have 24/7 access to your information and can immediately track the progression of your case without anyone getting in your way.
Being busy helped us attract and hire some of the best people in the world. Our technological advantages allow our team to work remotely. That opened the door to hiring the best no matter where they choose to live and work. Of course, these experts are available to you in our offices as well as via video and voice conferencing.
So, as it turns out, giving away secrets isn’t crazy after all. People going through divorce tell us to keep doing what we’re doing, the way we’re doing it. Our clients love it when we take the information, the technology and the most amazing team you’ll ever meet and use it all to advance their cause. You will too.
Divorce is different here.
We offer Rosen Online to clients anywhere in North Carolina. We personally represent clients in Wake, Durham, Chatham, Orange, and Johnston counties. If you need an attorney outside of these counties please visit our Lawyer Locator. If your case involves child support exclusively, contact your local child support enforcement agency.